In the midst of the holiday season, we encourage a spirit of
helping our fellow man and giving to those who have less. But, the arguments against the Affordable
Care Act seem to be counter to this sentiment.
At a core level, the Act provides coverage to everyone in
the US regardless of pre-existing conditions.
Detractors argue against additional entitlements to those less fortunate
and who need coverage. A New York Times article,
found a majority of uninsured people polled also disapprove of the law. This survey is surprising given that these
are individuals that would presumably benefit most from the law.
This makes me wonder if people are acting against their
longer-term self-interest. Perhaps
people feel it shows weakness to receive support from the government. So, why do we find it so difficult to ask for
help? Let’s see what the arts have to
say.
In the movie Gravity,
director Alfonso Cuaron provides a breathless view of existence in space. His astronauts are caught in a storm of
debris that tears them away from their shuttle and literally sends them
spinning in space. Sandra Bullock is the
novice weighed down by earthly circumstances who is looking for a way to
recommit to life. George Clooney is her
celestial savior. The film sends us soaring through a galactic vacuum and makes
us realize that we must all fight to be grounded.
All is Lost
follows a similar theme of an individual thrown into a survival situation.
Robert Redford is sailing alone in the middle of the Pacific when a stray cargo
container strikes his craft, thus leading to a series of challenges. Like the astronauts, our protagonist is very
resourceful, but his pleas for help go unheeded by the large corporate
behemoths encircling the seas. None of
us can take for granted that we are going to be saved.
We all need help at some point, but we are disinclined to
ask. One reason for the reluctance may
be that we don’t recognize that we need help.
In situations of emotional, physical or spiritual trauma, getting back
to safety by ourselves is difficult. But
we do have in our control the ability to pause, take a breath and be aware of
the situation. Then we need to ask for
aid. The danger here is that we are
happy to continue spinning because it allows us to escape from our realities. But, inevitably staying in this space will
lead to a crash back to earth with even more dire circumstances.
The reluctance could also come from a fear or concern that
our request for help will be unanswered.
Initial requests for help that are unheard, leave us empty and
bitter. After repeated events, we start
feeling insecure or unworthy. The only solution
here is not to give up, but to be persistent. The uninsured individuals in the polls may fall
in this second category, because their opposition to the Act may come from a
fear of costs and a sense that the system has betrayed them before and so are
unwilling to seek further help.
Many of us fall into this situation, where we know we need
help but are unwilling to ask, because of fear of rejection. For the new year, it’s good to remember that
lending a hand to a request for support will make it more likely it comes back
to us when we need it.
Happy New Year and Best Wishes for 2014.
Monday, December 30, 2013
Friday, October 4, 2013
Some thoughts on… Living Life
September was a momentous month. In a three week period, we were part of 2
weddings and 1 funeral, and the events have reinforced perspectives and priorities
in our life.
The second wedding was between Klaus and myself. We had over 160 people attend out in Sag Harbor, and it was joyous despite and because of the other events.
The first wedding
was between Ilan Gutherz and Sonali Bloom, who we have known since she was five
when studying for our PhD at Columbia with her father David. She essentially was our first god-daughter. The wedding was held in the middle of a rainstorm
in a beautiful garden on the campus of Wellesley College. It was a monsoon wedding, with the skies
pouring down blessings in the middle of the ceremony.
Everything was perfect.
The event emphasized why society looks forward to marriages – the beginning of a life together, the shared
commitment of two families, the love of relatives and friends. The most cherished feeling is the sense that
a new generation takes on the responsibility of protecting the future of the
planet through the bond they create.
The funeral was the death of Alexandra, the 11-year old
daughter of our close friends Anne and Mario.
She passed away after a brave nine month fight with osteosarcoma (bone
cancer) which was diagnosed in January.
The aggression of the tumor was startling, but throughout Alexandra
battled with the tenacity of a child who knows she has an entire life in front
of her.
There is no plausible explanation for such tragedy. Children, who were healthy less than a year
ago, should not pass away. Life provides
scant fairness and little comfort. All
we can do is hope for healing, strength and serenity for the survivors.
The second wedding was between Klaus and myself. We had over 160 people attend out in Sag Harbor, and it was joyous despite and because of the other events.
If there is a learning we take from September, it is that
life is precious because of the love that we share with the ones around us. As described in the reading by my sister at
our ceremony from The Little Prince
by Antoine de Saint-Exupery, life only has true meaning when we take
responsibility for the ones we tame (an abridged version of the text is below).
The point of life is to live it. We eventually must part from the ones we are
responsible for, making it all the more important that we cherish the precious
moments, occasions and time that we do have with them.
===
Excerpt from The
Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery
It was then that the fox appeared.
“Good morning,” said the fox.
“Good morning,” the little prince responded politely,
although when he turned around he saw nothing.
“I am right here,” the voice said, “under the apple tree.”
“Who are you?” asked the little prince and added, “You are
very pretty to look at.”
“I am a fox,” the fox said.
“Come and play with me,” proposed the little prince, “I am
so unhappy.”
“I cannot play with you,” the fox said, “I am not tamed.”
“Ah! Please excuse me,” said the little prince. But after some thought, he added, “What does
that mean – ‘tame’?”
…
“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means
to establish ties.”
“ ‘To establish ties’ ?”
“Just that,” said the fox. “To me you are still nothing more
than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys. And I have no need of you. And you, on your part, have no need of
me. To you, I am nothing more than a fox
like a hundred thousand other foxes. But
if you tame me, then we shall need each other.
To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world…”
…
“Please – tame me!”
“I want to, very much,” the little prince replied. “But I
have not much time. I have friends to discover, and great many things to
understand.”
“One only understand the things that one tames,” said the
fox. “Men have no more time to understand anything. They buy things all ready made at the shops. But there is no shop anywhere where one can
buy friendship, and so men have no friends any more. If you want a friend, tame me…”
“What must I do, to tame you?” asked the little prince.
“You must be very patient,” replied the fox.
…
“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only
with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the
eye.”
…
“Men have forgotten this truth,” said the fox, “But you must
not forget it. You become responsible,
forever, for what you have tamed.”
October 4, 2013
Sunday, March 31, 2013
Some thoughts on… Standing Still
The Supreme Court reviewed two cases this week that examine
the issue of marriage equality in the US.
One of them contests the Defense of Marriage Act which federally defines
marriage between a man and woman, therefore excluding over 1000 national
benefits to same-gender couples, including medical visitation rights and
inheritance tax. The second is a review
of California’s Proposition 8, which places in limbo tens of thousands of
couples who were granted marriage but whose status is in question after the
referendum passed.
It is Spielberg’s steady hand that brings the story to life. Although pedantic at points, he shows us that below the noble intention of Lincoln’s decision to end slavery through constitutional amendment there is a seamy underbelly of politics which must be reckoned with. To lead the country through the brackish waters to a more perfect union, hands must get dirty, ultimatums offered, and half-truths paraded. At times, it seems the President is pulling the boat by himself with little help from the country. But we know that is a mistake. If the tides weren’t pushing with him, he likely wouldn’t have taken on the Herculean effort.
One potential outcome for both cases is that the Court may
choose to do nothing, arguing that it is not their responsibility to decide
these cases. Given the outpouring of
support for marriage equality from conservative and liberal constituents, such
a move by the Justices might be considered a slap in the face to the public,
and a failure to move forward a civil rights issue in the country.
But is it a failing of leadership for the Court to stand
still and do nothing? Let’s see what the
arts and life have to say about this.
The Oscar-winning movie Lincoln
brings together an extraordinary team of artists – Steven Spielberg, Tony
Kushner, Daniel Day-Lewis, amongst many others – similar to how the 16th
President brought together a cabinet to lead a country and to address the issue
of slavery in the United States. The
movie is an homage to the man widely recognized as one of the greatest
Presidents with Day-Lewis transforming into the role. Kushner based his screenplay on the book Team of Rivals, and narrates ably from
the erudition of legal concerns to the cut-throat politics of implementation.
It is Spielberg’s steady hand that brings the story to life. Although pedantic at points, he shows us that below the noble intention of Lincoln’s decision to end slavery through constitutional amendment there is a seamy underbelly of politics which must be reckoned with. To lead the country through the brackish waters to a more perfect union, hands must get dirty, ultimatums offered, and half-truths paraded. At times, it seems the President is pulling the boat by himself with little help from the country. But we know that is a mistake. If the tides weren’t pushing with him, he likely wouldn’t have taken on the Herculean effort.
In our recent visit to Burma, we saw a country on the cusp
of tremendous change. A few years ago
tourism was 500,000 people a year, next year it will be 3 million. No country can adapt to this level of change
– neither the infrastructure nor the people can remain the same. The military
government opened the doors to reformation, and the global population is
streaming through. At the cross-road
between India, Thailand, and China, all the super-powers – Japan, US, China,
Russia – are vying for the natural resources and geo-political stature that the
country affords. The impact of changing
from an autarky to an open economy for the government officials is obvious –
they will make a fortune. The impact on
the people is yet to be seen.
Given isolation over the past 50 years, the populace had
been sheltered from the machinations of capitalism. Blackberries don’t work in the country and
internet is still dial-up. All Buddhist
men at the age of 18 are required to go to the monastery for two years. Food is readily available, but there is
little luxury. Opening up the country
will undoubtedly bring improvements, but change for change’s sake is not
necessarily the optimal path. The
government’s role in leading through this time is critical. They could push heavily for commercialization
and industrialization, leading the charge towards a more modern state. It will definitely make money for people at
the top. If they choose this course, they
need to recognize that growth and development towards a western ideal may come
at the cost of losing the authentic nature of the country.
A large part of a leader’s job is to move people to new
positions or new grounds that they may not necessarily have gone to on their
own. Whether on the battlefield, in the workplace or in politics, people look
to leaders to provide direction on the way forward. Hopefully, the new destination is better than
where they were before. In the case of President
Lincoln, if he were not in front steering the ship towards a new path, it may
have taken decades to remove the yoke of slavery from the neck of the US.
Many times though, leaders may not need to steer because the
people are already moving in a preferred direction. In these cases, the most a leader should do
is gently guide the group towards the chosen path, and at a minimum not be an
obstacle to the progress. This is the
hardest job, because leaders instinctually feel they need to be out in
front. In the case of the Burmese
government, their best role may be to let the people have a greater choice on
the direction and rate of change, and gently nudge or stay out of the way.
For the Supreme Court, if they choose not to rule on these
two cases they are demonstrating a more gentle leadership style. The lower court rulings would still be
upheld, and they would be staying out of the way of progress. It is not a failing of leadership to do
nothing in this situation. If they do
rule on the cases pushing for marriage equality, then they put themselves in a
situation where they need to force a number of states to follow. This is a more accelerated and difficult path
for the country.
If done right, both choices demonstrate leadership, and as the
protagonist sings in Bombay Dreams, “Sometimes
standing still can be the best move you ever make.”
March 31, 2013
Sunday, January 13, 2013
Some thoughts on… Achieving Status
Reflecting on the beginning of a new year, it’s time to think about achievements and make resolutions to accomplish even more for the next year. For example, personally I achieved Executive Platinum status on American Airlines for the first time in 2012, and wonder if it is possible to pull it off for 2013.
Whether the goals are professional or personal, why do we feel a need to strive so hard every year? Let’s see what the arts have to say.
Clifford Odet’s play Golden Boy at Lincoln Center was first produced in 1937, and maintains its relevance as ever today. The story follows a 21 year-old concert violinist, Joe Bonaparte, who gives up decades of training and practice to pursue quick fortune by entering the professional boxing ring. Joe’s ambition drives him fast towards a destiny that he believes will bring him happiness. Away from the life of musical introspection that his middle class, Italian family fostered, he seeks a journey that will catapult him to instant fame.
His story is similar to the multitudes of young individuals looking to establish themselves in a changing world. Seth Numrich portrays the arrogance and charisma of a boy becoming a man, willing to cast aside childish notions of musical perfection for the adult needs of acknowledgment and status. Tony Shaloub plays Joe’s father with pathos and a tragic recognition of the potential costs of this pursuit. A musician’s profession may not be glamorous enough for a young man seeking success, but in the trade-off he forgets the joy that a more humble life brings to others around him.
The film version of Les Miserable is a grand spectacle bringing to screen visuals hard to imagine on a Broadway stage. The novel of Jean Valjean’s lifetime penance for crimes he committed as a youth, and his foil Javert’s commitment to punishing him, is established in the Western ethos. Hugh Jackman carries the movie on his wolverine shoulders, but it’s a heavy load. Anne Hathaway as the ‘can’t take your eyes off her’ Fantine and Eddie Redmayne as the revelatory Marius provide support, yet the weight of the spectacle overcomes in the end.
Victor Hugo’s story still sings though. Javert’s solipsistic pursuit of a wrong that shouldn’t be righted is misguided and heartfelt. Jean Valjean, after a lifetime of self-preservation and flight from his identity, realizes that his true triumph is not survival but the happiness of his daughter. In this final feat, he accomplishes more than he has in his lifetime.
Like Joe and Jean Valjean, in youth we seek achievement as a way of establishing ourselves, getting the things we want and have yearned for. We seek status for ourselves. Once we get those though, we could keep gathering more, but it becomes a relentless pursuit towards an ever-moving goal.
The difficult part is shifting gears to striving to make ourselves better, not to achieve status, but as an appreciation of life. Recognizing that lacking this impetus, we are wasting the time given to us. The motivation changes to making ourselves better through the success of other - by mentoring, by training or by transferring wisdom to those we love around us. If we cling too tightly to our own purposes, like Javert, we lose true north and have nothing more to give ourselves. As Javert sings before his demise:
January 13, 2013
Whether the goals are professional or personal, why do we feel a need to strive so hard every year? Let’s see what the arts have to say.
Clifford Odet’s play Golden Boy at Lincoln Center was first produced in 1937, and maintains its relevance as ever today. The story follows a 21 year-old concert violinist, Joe Bonaparte, who gives up decades of training and practice to pursue quick fortune by entering the professional boxing ring. Joe’s ambition drives him fast towards a destiny that he believes will bring him happiness. Away from the life of musical introspection that his middle class, Italian family fostered, he seeks a journey that will catapult him to instant fame.
His story is similar to the multitudes of young individuals looking to establish themselves in a changing world. Seth Numrich portrays the arrogance and charisma of a boy becoming a man, willing to cast aside childish notions of musical perfection for the adult needs of acknowledgment and status. Tony Shaloub plays Joe’s father with pathos and a tragic recognition of the potential costs of this pursuit. A musician’s profession may not be glamorous enough for a young man seeking success, but in the trade-off he forgets the joy that a more humble life brings to others around him.
The film version of Les Miserable is a grand spectacle bringing to screen visuals hard to imagine on a Broadway stage. The novel of Jean Valjean’s lifetime penance for crimes he committed as a youth, and his foil Javert’s commitment to punishing him, is established in the Western ethos. Hugh Jackman carries the movie on his wolverine shoulders, but it’s a heavy load. Anne Hathaway as the ‘can’t take your eyes off her’ Fantine and Eddie Redmayne as the revelatory Marius provide support, yet the weight of the spectacle overcomes in the end.
Victor Hugo’s story still sings though. Javert’s solipsistic pursuit of a wrong that shouldn’t be righted is misguided and heartfelt. Jean Valjean, after a lifetime of self-preservation and flight from his identity, realizes that his true triumph is not survival but the happiness of his daughter. In this final feat, he accomplishes more than he has in his lifetime.
Like Joe and Jean Valjean, in youth we seek achievement as a way of establishing ourselves, getting the things we want and have yearned for. We seek status for ourselves. Once we get those though, we could keep gathering more, but it becomes a relentless pursuit towards an ever-moving goal.
The difficult part is shifting gears to striving to make ourselves better, not to achieve status, but as an appreciation of life. Recognizing that lacking this impetus, we are wasting the time given to us. The motivation changes to making ourselves better through the success of other - by mentoring, by training or by transferring wisdom to those we love around us. If we cling too tightly to our own purposes, like Javert, we lose true north and have nothing more to give ourselves. As Javert sings before his demise:
I am reaching, but I fall
And the stars are black and cold.
And the stars are black and cold.
As I stare into the void
Of a world that cannot hold
January 13, 2013
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