Friday, January 9, 2015

Some thoughts on… Identifying the Enemy

Recent occurrences of violence and terrorism and the response to them, e.g. the report on CIA use of anti-terrorism techniques; police force to subdue protests and crimes in New York and Ohio; the murder of newspaper staff in Paris, have raised two questions in my mind.

First, how do we identify the enemy in these situations? In the case of the French slaying is it the two brothers, radical Islamic belief, or Muslim ideology in general that is to blame? Second, once we do identify the perpetrators, what should be the appropriate response? Are responses like water-boarding, rectal probing or chokeholding suitable?

Three current shows and films provide some perspective on these questions. Let’s see what the Arts have to say.

Stephen Sondheim and James Lapine’s movie adaptation of Into the Woods is a captivating fable outlining the repercussions of getting our wishes and how that may not necessarily lead to a fairy tale ending.  Initiating the musical with familiar parables like Cinderella, Jack and the Bean Stalk and Little Red Riding Hood, the authors illustrate how each character’s pursuit of their one wish with a relentless passion can lead to unforeseen damage to the community when these selfish paths crisscross. 

In this case, witches, giants and old family sins reappear wreaking havoc on our protagonists.  Although these are easy targets for being the enemies of the story, we see that it is the pursuit of our heroes’ desires that unleashes them in the first.  The actions of these enemies may need to be stopped, but their motivations are just the same as ours.  As Sondheim writes: “Witches can be right, Giants can be good, you decide what’s right you decide what’s good.  Just remember someone is on your side, someone else is not.  When you’re seeing your side, maybe we forgot they are not alone. No one is alone.”

Disgraced is the Pulitzer Prize winning play by Ayad Akhtar.   Set in present day New York, we witness two couples having dinner until a bewildering act of violence throws the characters into a harsh light.  The culprit is clear and the response to his actions tempers the motivation behind the deed. Through their conversations, the characters invoke an important distinction - the response to a misdeed depends on how strongly an individual or society values either order or justice.  If one highly values justice, retribution can be swift and as cruel as the original act of violence.  If one highly values order, we accept that the penalty for a crime will take longer and will be more measured. 

Similar to many countries of the world, American society swings between these values.  After the 9/11 attacks, justice was highly prized and the government sanctioned methods such as waterboarding.  With the passing of time we swing back to order.  In the play, the act of violence is motivated by a sense of justice, and yet surprisingly the other characters’ response is one of order.  By responding in this manner, a cycle of violence is upended, and the culprit feels even more shame for the deed.

The Imitation Game describes the story of Alan Turing during the critical years when he worked with a team to break the Nazi codes and helped win World War II.  The title is based on one of his papers that describes how a computer may someday be able to mimic human thought.  The movie portrays the imitation game on additional levels - how the Allies tried to break the German code by replicating the results, and how Turing tried to mimic individuals in general society despite his awkward nature and homosexuality.

A pioneer in his field, Turing looked to find a way to outthink his rivals.  Rather than use brute force to break the codes, he devised a machine and system that could “learn” from its past actions thus getting smarter the more calculations that it conducted.  In the modern day our rice cookers conduct these computations, in 1941 England it was a system of vacuum tubes and analog dials filling a house.  Once the code was broken, Turing’s team used the information to decisively outmaneuver by staying one step ahead of the Axis’ intentions.


From these shows, we see that although it may be easy to identify an enemy at face, it’s important to recognize that their actions could be motivated by a series of decisions both theirs and ours that were initiated by selfish interests.  We shouldn’t necessarily forgive the perpetrators, but approaching the punishment with a sense of order rather than justice, can prevent the initiation of a cycle of violence.  Finally, by reflecting on our enemies’ motivations and thinking the way they do, we may be able to stay ahead of the game.

Monday, December 30, 2013

Some thoughts on… Asking for help

In the midst of the holiday season, we encourage a spirit of helping our fellow man and giving to those who have less.  But, the arguments against the Affordable Care Act seem to be counter to this sentiment. 

At a core level, the Act provides coverage to everyone in the US regardless of pre-existing conditions.  Detractors argue against additional entitlements to those less fortunate and who need coverage.  A New York Times article, found a majority of uninsured people polled also disapprove of the law.  This survey is surprising given that these are individuals that would presumably benefit most from the law.  

This makes me wonder if people are acting against their longer-term self-interest.  Perhaps people feel it shows weakness to receive support from the government.  So, why do we find it so difficult to ask for help?  Let’s see what the arts have to say.

In the movie Gravity, director Alfonso Cuaron provides a breathless view of existence in space.  His astronauts are caught in a storm of debris that tears them away from their shuttle and literally sends them spinning in space.  Sandra Bullock is the novice weighed down by earthly circumstances who is looking for a way to recommit to life.  George Clooney is her celestial savior. The film sends us soaring through a galactic vacuum and makes us realize that we must all fight to be grounded.

All is Lost follows a similar theme of an individual thrown into a survival situation. Robert Redford is sailing alone in the middle of the Pacific when a stray cargo container strikes his craft, thus leading to a series of challenges.  Like the astronauts, our protagonist is very resourceful, but his pleas for help go unheeded by the large corporate behemoths encircling the seas.  None of us can take for granted that we are going to be saved.

We all need help at some point, but we are disinclined to ask.  One reason for the reluctance may be that we don’t recognize that we need help.  In situations of emotional, physical or spiritual trauma, getting back to safety by ourselves is difficult.  But we do have in our control the ability to pause, take a breath and be aware of the situation.  Then we need to ask for aid.  The danger here is that we are happy to continue spinning because it allows us to escape from our realities.  But, inevitably staying in this space will lead to a crash back to earth with even more dire circumstances.

The reluctance could also come from a fear or concern that our request for help will be unanswered.  Initial requests for help that are unheard, leave us empty and bitter.  After repeated events, we start feeling insecure or unworthy.  The only solution here is not to give up, but to be persistent.  The uninsured individuals in the polls may fall in this second category, because their opposition to the Act may come from a fear of costs and a sense that the system has betrayed them before and so are unwilling to seek further help.

Many of us fall into this situation, where we know we need help but are unwilling to ask, because of fear of rejection.  For the new year, it’s good to remember that lending a hand to a request for support will make it more likely it comes back to us when we need it.

Happy New Year and Best Wishes for 2014.

Friday, October 4, 2013

Some thoughts on… Living Life

September was a momentous month.  In a three week period, we were part of 2 weddings and 1 funeral, and the events have reinforced perspectives and priorities in our life.

The first wedding was between Ilan Gutherz and Sonali Bloom, who we have known since she was five when studying for our PhD at Columbia with her father David.  She essentially was our first god-daughter.  The wedding was held in the middle of a rainstorm in a beautiful garden on the campus of Wellesley College.  It was a monsoon wedding, with the skies pouring down blessings in the middle of the ceremony. 

Everything was perfect.  The event emphasized why society looks forward to marriages –  the beginning of a life together, the shared commitment of two families, the love of relatives and friends.  The most cherished feeling is the sense that a new generation takes on the responsibility of protecting the future of the planet through the bond they create.

The funeral was the death of Alexandra, the 11-year old daughter of our close friends Anne and Mario.  She passed away after a brave nine month fight with osteosarcoma (bone cancer) which was diagnosed in January.  The aggression of the tumor was startling, but throughout Alexandra battled with the tenacity of a child who knows she has an entire life in front of her.
 
There is no plausible explanation for such tragedy.  Children, who were healthy less than a year ago, should not pass away.  Life provides scant fairness and little comfort.  All we can do is hope for healing, strength and serenity for the survivors.

The second wedding was between Klaus and myself. We had over 160 people attend out in Sag Harbor, and it was joyous despite and because of the other events.  

If there is a learning we take from September, it is that life is precious because of the love that we share with the ones around us.  As described in the reading by my sister at our ceremony from The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery, life only has true meaning when we take responsibility for the ones we tame (an abridged version of the text is below).

The point of life is to live it.  We eventually must part from the ones we are responsible for, making it all the more important that we cherish the precious moments, occasions and time that we do have with them. 

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Excerpt from The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupery

It was then that the fox appeared.

“Good morning,” said the fox.

“Good morning,” the little prince responded politely, although when he turned around he saw nothing.

“I am right here,” the voice said, “under the apple tree.”

“Who are you?” asked the little prince and added, “You are very pretty to look at.”

“I am a fox,” the fox said.

“Come and play with me,” proposed the little prince, “I am so unhappy.”

“I cannot play with you,” the fox said, “I am not tamed.”

“Ah! Please excuse me,” said the little prince.  But after some thought, he added, “What does that mean – ‘tame’?”


“It is an act too often neglected,” said the fox. “It means to establish ties.”

“ ‘To establish ties’ ?”

“Just that,” said the fox. “To me you are still nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys.  And I have no need of you.  And you, on your part, have no need of me.  To you, I am nothing more than a fox like a hundred thousand other foxes.  But if you tame me, then we shall need each other.  To me, you will be unique in all the world.  To you, I shall be unique in all the world…”


“Please – tame me!”

“I want to, very much,” the little prince replied. “But I have not much time. I have friends to discover, and great many things to understand.”

“One only understand the things that one tames,” said the fox. “Men have no more time to understand anything.  They buy things all ready made at the shops.  But there is no shop anywhere where one can buy friendship, and so men have no friends any more.  If you want a friend, tame me…”

“What must I do, to tame you?” asked the little prince.

“You must be very patient,” replied the fox.


“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”


“Men have forgotten this truth,” said the fox, “But you must not forget it.  You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed.”

 

October 4, 2013